Have you ever been in a situation where someone in your life will not communicate with you – no matter how hard you try?
I am going through this right now. There is someone in my life that I love dearly, whom I have tried to reach out to many times, but have received no response. I am not going to go into the details of what happened, except to say there was no fight, no argument, and no falling out between the two of us.
There was a period when I was feeling sad, mad, confused, and hurt – over and over again. It consumed my thoughts. I discussed it with multiple people that did and did not know this person. I didn’t understand why. What did I do? What didn’t I do? What can I do to fix it? Do they not like me anymore? Why?
It was exhausting. I had to let it go. I had to give this person the space and time they needed. I had to accept where the relationship was in the present and let go of how it has been in the past and how I want it to be in the future.
I had to resist the urge to fix, to change, to force a resolution with this person. You may remember, that I am a recovering people-pleaser and I felt myself starting to relapse. It was uncomfortable to think someone I loved, didn’t want to talk to me.
This was tough for me to do, but I did it. I let them know that I love them and that I am here – if and when they want to reconnect.
I meditated, journaled, and then I energetically released this person. This meant gently and with intention – wrapping them in divine love and handing them and the situation over to God. It felt good. I could feel my body, mind, and soul relax.
I let go of needing to hear back from this person. I released any expectations of how I wanted things to be between us and I made a conscious decision to not take any of it personally.
I think of this person often and it can still make me sad – but now I can take a deep breath and visualize them being wrapped in love – and I let it go.
“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.” Eckart Tolle