I was on a video call with a group of women who identify as empaths. It was the first time we were meeting. It was a very casual, laid-back format. 

We started with an ice breaker, introduced ourselves, and shared experiences, books, and thoughts about being highly sensitive and an empath.

It was great to connect with other women who can relate to being called ‘too sensitive,’ who need alone time, and who have experienced (many times) that they felt different or like they didn’t belong.

As we were talking there was one woman in particular who seemed to hesitate to share. When it was her turn to talk, she explained that she had a difficult time connecting with others, but was looking forward to getting to know other women that were also empaths.

I could feel the discomfort from her. Periodically she would turn off her camera and disappear. I noticed that I was getting uncomfortable and distracted by her. Fortunately, I remembered to consciously clear my energy, so I could let go of any uneasiness I was taking on from her.  

However, as the call went on I could feel myself getting uneasy – again. I felt myself start to judge her. Not-so-nice thoughts started to cross my mind, such as, maybe she has a difficult time connecting because she is not focusing or not participating in conversations.

Ugh. Then I would clear my energy again and remind myself to let it go, to not judge, to accept this woman exactly how and where she is.

I wanted to share this with you to remind you that clearing your energy takes practice, commitment, and more practice. Some days, situations, and times are easier than others. 

I also know all too well how easy it can be to get upset with yourself when you forget – which is not helpful. (Compassion is key here, for yourself and others). 

Part of my ongoing practice is catching myself when I am starting to judge or criticize others or myself. Because then I can immediately walk through one of my energy-clearing practices. 

I’ve learned that I don’t want the uneasy, stressful energy to get stuck, build up in my body, and cause blockages. I know over time these blockages will cause emotional and physical symptoms. 

Later that evening the woman I mentioned sent a message to the group explaining that she has a chronic health condition that impairs her ability to think and articulate and it can leave her with little energy.

Right! You never know what is going on in someone else’s world. On the outside, someone can appear a certain way, but on the inside, it is a completely different story. Another great reminder!

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” ― Dalai Lama